Self compassion
Negative connections with people can be a drain on us emotionally, mentally and physically. But there are ways to cope with, and limit, the effects of toxic relationships in your life. Last year, Katie, a client, received an email from an acquaintance with a mocking tone, wishing her “so much bad luck in the future”.…
Deepening Dependence Dependence is often seen as a dirty word, associated with the “needy” and the emotionally unstable. But looking into research on what really helps people become happy, successful and, importantly, independent, we may need to turn this idea on its head. Tom’s partner Amy, who like Tom is in her early 30s, has…
Let it out or let it be: Why the cathartic approach to anger management doesn’t work. “I’ve had one hell of a day – first someone reversed into my car, my colleagues hadn’t done what they promised at work on our project and took no responsibility, and as I was racing to watch the kids…
One of the most common statements I hear in my office is “I should be grateful.” For example, “I’ve got so many things to be grateful for (my health, enough food, good friends, a good life…) so I have no reason to feel depressed/anxious/stressed.” While there is no doubt that counting your blessings can have…
One of my favourite shows – possibly embarrassing to admit – is “Project Runway.” This is the reality TV show that pits American designers against each other, competing to make garments with a limited budget in a very limited time span, in an effort to find the next new top fashion designer. What makes for…